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SGR 091: The Truth Behind “You’re Just Like Your Mother”

June 25, 2020 Marina Voron
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We’ve all heard it.

Mid-argument with our partner:

“You’re just like your mother!”

But, what does that really mean? Why is it so common?

We learn how to be in relationships by observing our parents and the adults in our life growing up. We experience love in the ways our parents or caregivers showed us love. The way the important adults in our life expressed their emotions - happiness, frustration, anger - towards us, are the ways we expect our adult partners to do so.

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In relationships Tags family, conflict
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SGR 087: Navigating Differing Views on COVID-19 Guidance in Your Family

May 21, 2020 Marina Voron
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Typically, when our opinions differ from those of a friend or family member, we can choose to avoid talking about that topic or come to compromise. Things like politics or what to order for dinner are fairly simple to manage with loved ones.

But, what about COVID-19 precautions?

You don’t need to talk about them, but you do need to embody the ones that are important to you. As you, your family, and friends enact new practices, you’ll quickly discover the areas of disagreement.

What happens when you’re together, but abiding by differing practices?

It’s time for a refresh on boundaries.

There are a few ways to navigate situations where you’ll be with friends or family members who practice different precautions in the coming months.

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In relationships Tags coronavirus, boundaries, family
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SGR 071: I Feel Stuck Between My Spouse and My Family

January 30, 2020 Marina Voron
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One of the most challenging parts of merging lives with a spouse is having them join your family. You’re inviting them into a lifetime of history, beliefs, routines, and expectations - and you’re not giving them a rule book ahead of time.

The differences between our partner and our family became crystal clear when we’re faced with a decision and the two do not agree. (Think: where to buy a house, how to spend a holiday, who to invite to a party you’re hosting). Let’s take the hosting a party example. What happens when Mom says, “you have to invite everybody” and your spouse wants to keep it small?

You don’t really care either way and you’re used to your mother hosting parties, so you figure - she knows what she’s doing, we’ll invite everybody. And your partner gets angry. They don’t understand why you’re siding with your mother over them. After all, aren’t you two hosting the party in your home?

So, you go back to your mother and let her know you’re just having a small get-together, so you won’t be inviting everybody this time. Now, your mother is upset. She doesn’t understand why you’re excluding family members and is worried about people being offended. Worse yet, she’s “disappointed.”

Talk about being stuck in the middle.

“Why can’t my spouse just say yes? It would be so much easier on me and then my mother would be happy.”

Scenarios like this unfold because you’re not aware of the unspoken rules your family functions by, so you haven’t been able to share them with your spouse. You’re not aware that all families don’t function the same way as yours, where the mother makes the decisions about gatherings and hosting events and the father weighs in heavily on finances. Or that you and your siblings have spent your lives saying “yes” to our mother because your father taught you that’s how to “be happy.” You just said, “yes.” You deferred to her for decisions about parties. And life was easy.

Now that you’re married, you’ve got to find a way to integrate your two families - your new family, and your original family.

In this episode, we’re talking about why conflict between spouses and families is normal, given the circumstances, how these conflicts come to be, and what to do to diffuse both sides constructively.

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In relationships Tags family, in laws
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SGR 064: The Three Types of Boundaries That Will Help You Survive the Holidays

December 12, 2019 Marina Voron
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During the holidays, there is a significant increase in invitations and expectations from friends and family. It becomes even more important than usual to check in with yourself and your partner on how you’re feeling, what you want, and what you need.

Without this check in, you’re likely to end up feeling overwhelmed, overbooked, and resentful. Your physical and emotional energy may become depleted and you’ll look back on this time of year with relief that it’s finally over. (Not the type of holiday experience we’d want to have).

This is where the boundaries come into play.

There are a few different factors to consider when deciding where and how to spend your time this holiday season. We’ve identified three types of boundaries:

Physical Boundaries | These are boundaries around where you will and won’t go and how you will or will not accept physical touch (for yourself and your children).

Emotional Boundaries | These are boundaries around the ways in which you will connect with others. For example, what topics you will and will not discuss, how long you’ll spend connecting with particular people, and the types of emotional experiences you’re open to having.

Energetic Boundaries | These are boundaries around your physical, emotional, and mental energy. They involve taking into account how tired you are, how emotionally drained or energized you feel when interacting with certain people, and how much mental bandwidth you have for supporting others.

In this week’s episode, we’re going deeper into each of these three types of boundaries, what they look like, how to evaluate which ones you need to enact, and how we apply these in our lives.

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In relationships Tags holidays, family, boundaries
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SGR 017: Talking About The Scary Stuff - Being Vulnerable

October 28, 2017 Marina Voron
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On this week’s episode, we’re talking about the importance of being vulnerable and how to integrate this practice into your relationship.

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In relationships Tags in laws, family
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SGR 016: What To Do When Your Family Doesn’t Support Your Relationship

October 19, 2017 Marina Voron
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On this week’s episode, we’re talking about the importance of sharing your life’s dreams with your partner and how to co-create shared dreams and goals.

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Sep 17, 2020
SGR 103: Pelvic Floor Health and Sexual Pleasure with Kim Vopni
Sep 17, 2020

Are Kegels as close as you’ve gotten to being informed about pelvic floor health?

If so, this week’s episode is for you.

Some signs that you may be having pelvic floor issues include:

  • Incontinence

  • Lower back pain

  • Discomfort with sex

  • A weak core

Sep 17, 2020

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