When you’re in a relationship long enough, you start to acquire some repeat issues. A conflict happens, it’s unpleasant, but you two move forward. A few months later, this conflict reoccurs. It’s a bit more heated, lasts a little longer, but, again, you two move forward. This cycle continues for weeks, months, or even years.
Eventually, you find yourself in a kitchen sink situation.
You know, when you’re arguing about one thing and something (seemingly) unrelated breaks through?
“I can’t believe you didn’t empty the dishwasher. I asked you to do this because I had to leave early for work. You never listen to me… you didn’t listen to me when I asked you to [insert unresolved issue]. You’re so selfish - you don’t even care about what’s important to me!”
And, you’re off to the battlefield.
These unresolved issues will continue to grow overtime until addressed. Each related disagreement will be more intense, harder to resolve, and take longer to move forward from.
In this week’s episode, we’re walking you step-by-step through tackling these unresolved issues in your relationship. This is an opportunity to finally repair the past hurts and make a plan for how you’re going to handle this situation more constructively in the future. Keep in mind: you’re going to reset your goal from getting your partner to agree with you to deeply understanding the experience each of you has had.