There are certain conflicts that seem to come out of nowhere. You’ve approached your partner with a concern, laid it out as clearly as you could, and - to your surprise - they completely lose it. They’re angry and hurt - and it’s somehow your fault.

How are you supposed to bring up your concerns if this is how they’re going to react.

Most likely, this is a case of the message being sent not ending up as the message being received. What you thought you were sharing with your partner was very different than what they felt you were sharing. There are a number of possible reasons for this, including having a low emotional bank account balance, faulty beliefs about your partner, or a trigger related to this topic.

Here’s a visual for you:

Impact = Message Received
Intention Message Sent

The hard truth is the impact your message has matters far more than your original intention. We talk a lot about perception vs. reality - the impact is how your partner perceived the message, and that’s what we’ve got to work with.

So, how do you make sure you’re communicating your needs in a way that allows your partner to receive your intended message? You’ll have to listen to this week’s episode to find out!

It’s that time again…

New Year’s Resolutions! 2020 goals! New Year, New Me!

Insert eye roll.

Look, we’re all about personal growth and making positive changes in your life and relationship. We just don’t feel like it can only start on January 1st. If at any point throughout the year you feel the need to reset, jump back into this episode and follow our three step process.

In the meantime, let’s plan for a successful 2020!

You’ve got to ask yourself a few things:

Where did you come from? What was 2019 like? What do you want to keep and what do you want to leave behind?
Where are you currently? What’s feeling good? What’s standing in your way?
Where do you want to go in 2020?

Goals have their place, but we really like setting intentions. Intentions give you the space to acknowledge ongoing progress, shorten or extend your journey, and get consistent feedback that you’re on the right track. Goals can be very black and white - you either achieved it or you didn’t. But, what about the 99% of progress that happens before the goal is officially checked off the list?

Be sure to listen to this week’s episode to learn our three steps to setting yourself and your relationship up for a successful 2020. Happy New Year!

Sep 17, 2020

SGR 103: Pelvic Floor Health and Sexual Pleasure with Kim Vopni

Are Kegels as close as you’ve gotten to being informed about pelvic floor health?

If so, this week’s episode is for you.

Some signs that you may be having pelvic floor issues include:

Incontinence
Lower back pain
Discomfort with sex
A weak core