We talked about recording this episode. And our immediate response? “Eww!”
No one wants to be in a parent-child relationship with their partner. Surprisingly, many of us are.
Being in a parent-child relationship means there is a hierarchy in place. One partner (the “parent”) holds more influence, decision-making power, and control than the other partner (the “child”). The “child” may have tried to express their opinion in the past, but gave up after seeing how powerful the “parent” was. The “parent” may have experienced the “child” make a lot of mistakes or poor choices, which led them to feel the need to takeover to ensure their lives stay on track.
So, what is the problem?
Healthy couples are in equal partnerships. Each partner has equal influence, decision-making power, and control. No one person feels they are beholden to the other. Over time, this hierarchy will affect all areas of the relationship. (Anyone want to have sex with their “Mom” or “Dad?” Ahem, no…).
In this week’s episode, we’re sharing stories about the types of parent-child relationships we’ve seen, how to identify if your relationship has slipped into this dynamic, and what to do to reset the hierarchy.