You can finally relax. After the fun chaos of wedding planning, getting married, and closing on your first home you finally feel settled. The honeymoon phase of married life can begin!
And then, it starts.
“When are you going to have babies?”
“You’ve been together for so long, isn’t it time?”
“Your cousin just had her second child, when are you going to start trying?”
You’re barely recovered from the overwhelm of your last big transition… is it already time to consider your next?
According to the “traditional” social narrative, having a baby should be part of the natural flow in a relationship. Bringing a baby into your relationship is one of the most transformative experiences and long-term commitments that you can make as a couple. If the decision to do so comes primarily from social pressure, you may be in for a rough ride.
It’s easy to avoid talking to your partner about having kids because it can be very emotionally charged and end up in conflict. You may feel like you two aren’t on the same page and are unsure how to become aligned. This week, we’re discussing the most common roadblocks we’ve encountered with our clients (and ourselves) in deciding whether it’s time to have kids and how to get past them. We’re talking about:
- Is there a “right time” to have a baby?
- What makes it hard to have “the baby talk,” especially when everyone around you says it’s time
- How to explore your individual feelings around this decision
- How to collaborate with your partner on this decision
In this week’s bonus - The Transition to Parenthood Prep Guide - We’ve put together a list of questions for you to discuss with your partner to help you get on the same page when it comes to this major life decision.
If you’ve started this conversation and it hasn’t gone as planned or you keep hitting the same roadblock over and over again, think about working with us. We offer research-based, transition to parenthood coaching for couples that will help guide your unique decision making process in a safe and supportive way and prepare you for that next step. You can call or send a text to us (914) 440-4814 or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
SGR 001 - Communication that (Actually) Works
SGR 003 - Creating More Pleasure in your Relationship
SGR 006 - 006 How to Get Your Partner to Say Yes
SGR 012 - How to Agree to Disagree
SGR 013 - When Marriage Doesn’t Feel Like A Fairy-Tale
SGR 017 - Talking About The Scary Stuff: Being Vulnerable
SGR 029 - Moving from 2 I's to a We
Short on time? Here’s a list of today’s topics and when to listen:
Is there a right time have a baby? - 2:44
What makes it hard to have “the baby talk” - 5:33
How to explore your individual feelings around this decision - 19:19
What does your relationship need to look like to feel secure and ready for baby? - 22:05
How to collaborate with your partner on this decision - 27:22
Meredith and Marina’s Takeaways - 40:40